. You put in the extra time and effort for yourself and for your children. Grandparents aren't too thrilled with it either. P. Conversely, ongoing marital and family problems can lead to depression. You have the satisfaction of always knowing that you gave it your best shot. But, even if counseling doesn't result in staying together, it is still a win-win proposition. Marc B. It never hurts to get an oil and filter change before going on a long trip. At this point, I share with my patients, Remember. ,M. Sometimes they are right, most of the time they are wrong. Often times depression can create problems in your marriage and family. Sometimes they are right, most of the time they are wrong. next. Depression must be treated first in order to give you the emotional where-with-all to address your marriage and family issues. Lipton, Ph. Many people look back years later at their failed marriage, regretting that they were not wise enough to seek the help they needed. P. P. But, even if counseling doesn't result in staying together, it is still a win-win proposition. By the time many people decide to seek marriage counseling, they are, at the same time, feeling that its too late to save their marriage. By the time many people decide to seek marriage counseling, they are, at the same time, feeling that its too late to save their marriage. We so oftentimes feel if we could just get away from our spouse and find a nice, understanding, loving person, happiness and contentment would be ours for the taking. . You put in the extra time and effort for yourself and for your children. Grandparents.